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The Future Of Selling Is Human (Even In 2025) With Mark Hunter

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Join host Mark Cox and sales expert Mark Hunter as they dive deep into the future of selling in 2025! This dynamic episode explores how to create business, build trust, and leverage AI for stronger customer relationships. Hunter emphasizes the importance of outbound prospecting, deepening the discovery process, and becoming a trusted advisor to your clients. He shares actionable strategies to de-educate customers, uncover their true needs, and ultimately help them achieve what they didn't think was possible. Plus, discover why AI is a powerful tool for salespeople and how continuous learning is crucial for staying ahead in the ever-evolving world of sales.

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The Future Of Selling Is Human (Even In 2025) With Mark Hunter

Team, we've got a great show for you. My guest is Mark Hunter. He's also known as The Sales Hunter. Mark's the author of three books. The last time we had him on, we were talking about A Mind for Sales. He's also the author of High-Profit Selling and High-Profit Prospecting. Clearly, he's a deep thought leader in our space. In fact, so much so, he'll be on the stage at the Outbound Conference the week after we actually recorded this episode where he's doing a keynote along with his teammates there. Anthony Iannarino, Jeb Blount, Brynne Tillman, a lot of great thought leaders who've been on the show because they know this space. In this conversation, we cover a lot of things, but almost anything that comes out of Mark's mouth about B2B sales is something that you can take and apply.

The way he explains things is very simply so that they resonate. Clearly, somebody who's been doing this a while and has a good way of communicating something clearly because he understands it so well. We have a fun chat about why we're both so excited for B2B sales and how the fundamentals don't change about successful salespeople are always trying to level up or improve themselves even by a little bit by reading a show like this one because they're always looking for that ongoing, lifelong learning.

The ballots of our conversations about how do we engage in effective discovery, get an authentic conversation going with a prospect where we've earned the right for them to share what's going on with their business. We talked about building that trust and credibility, as is the case with every one of these podcasts. I learned something from Mark. You will, too. If you like this episode, please like and subscribe to the show. Thanks for doing so. When you do that, by the way, that's what enables us to get these great guests like Mark. Here's Mark Hunter, The Sales Hunter.

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Mark, welcome back to the show. It's great to see you again.

It is great to be back on with you because we're going to talk sales. We're going to talk that thing that we love to do.

The Importance Of Outbound Sales

I was going to talk about hockey, but if you'd like to talk about sales, let's go with sales. The name of the show is The Selling Well. I'm sure hockey's going to find its way in here somehow, Mark, but let's start with sales. It's an exciting couple of weeks for you. You've got Outbound with you. A couple of other great guests of our show, by the way, run Outbound. Maybe you can tell the audience a little bit about that. By the time they read this, Outbound will be over. It's a pretty exciting event.

It is a pretty exciting event. Outbound is just that. Outbound selling, you can do that. It's prospecting, pipeline and productivity. If you think about it, so many salespeople sit around and wait for the phone to ring, wait for the email to, “I got business.” We're all about how do you create business. Why be a rain barrel when you can be a rainmaker? That's what Outbound is all about. Nice. You talk about putting 400 or 500 people into a room who are excited, the energy is over the top because everybody's focused on outbound selling. That's what selling is all about. If you're just dealing with inbound, that'd be the customer service show. This is the selling show.

If you were to believe some of the internet platitudes, folks saying outbound is dead, it's just so completely wrong. This is part of the challenge, I think, in professional sales nowadays. There's a lot of these platitudes, or catchphrase on various different parts of social media. Those of us who have dedicated a good portion of our career to this or turned around multiple different sales organizations, this is what you have to do to grow pipeline. You've got to reach out into the universe and create demand. Whether it's you, Jeb, Anthony Iannorino, or all of the folks at Outbound, pretty much everybody's been on our show, and you all believe the same thing. I'm right there with you.

What Keeps Mark Motivated After Many Years In The Field

Even when we just start this, I always get the energy and enthusiasm talking to you, Mark. Also, reading your books. Briefly, what initially drew you into the excitement of professional B2B sales and after this tenure, you and I have kind of the same tenure here, how do you keep that energy and enthusiasm going forward?

The enthusiasm is very easy because I don't sell. I help people. Selling is just the medium I’ve chosen to help people. That's what enthuses me every day. I love closing the sale. In fact, no, I don't like closing the sale because I'd rather open the relationship, but that's a separate deal. Here's the situation. Selling is purely about helping people. If that doesn't excite you when you wake up in the morning, you need to go find a different job or maybe go find a different planet because, again, my definition of sales is the same definition I have for leadership. It's helping others see and achieve what they didn't think was possible. Think about that. That's what it is. We just help others see and achieve what they didn't think was possible. That's pretty cool.

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It’s such an important mindset. I think, for so long, that mindset of getting away from pitching or trying to cajole or all of that silliness and just helping somebody achieve this desired business outcome, this tends to be the nature of sales. We had Daniel Pink on the show a little while back, and at the end I said, “What do you see happening with sales?” He said, “Mark, your audience know this, but today, B2B sales is management consulting. For 30 or 40 years, management consultants have walked into offices to talk to the most senior executives at the largest companies in the world. They have no product to pitch. Have conversations about the outcomes that those organizations want, and then they figure out how to get those outcomes and how to take them to that better future.”

Maintaining A Resilient Mindset In Sales

What a great definition you've got. When we think about this mindset shift, I know you do a lot of work in this space, this very competitive nature of B2B sales for all of us now, it is competitive. How do you recommend that salespeople maintain that resilient mindset? We've been through a few things here over the last few years, but what is some of the suggestions you make when you're working with all of the teams that you work with, Mark, about maintaining that competitive resilient mindset?

I want to pick up on what Daniel Pink shared in terms of what we are in B2B because I firmly believe in that. My goal in B2B sales, and actually in B2C, is to be in the customer's R&D department. What do you mean about R&D? Research and development department. In other words, it's my duty; it's my job to bring to you ideas that you had not been thinking about and that weren't even on your radar screen. To allow me to do that, I’ve got to understand who your customers are.

All we have to do is help our customers create a solution for a problem they may not even know existed.

One of the challenges in B2B sales is that we have to understand the upstream and the downstream. The upstream. What are all those supply chain issues that are impacting and supply chain issues? It might be just employee retention. It might be just keeping employees there. It could be all those things that maybe you provide. Why? It’s because the customer ultimately has another customer. They're going downstream.

Who are their customers? When I can understand their customers as well or better than they understand their customers, wow. Here's the whole thing. I picked this up on a podcast I was listening to. I can't remember what it was, but it says, “Create a solution, you create profit.” Think about that for a moment. All we have to do is help our customers create a solution for a problem that they may not even know existed. It goes back to my definition of sales.

When you think of so clear and so powerful, create a solution, you create profit. I’ve always thought, Mark, that when you win deals, the sales team or the organization that wins the deals, I think it's when the client believe they understand that sales team understands them better than somebody else. All of us need to be heard and understood and all of those good things, but there's almost no limit on the level of customer intimacy that we can all try and get to that we want to get to.

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Timeless Challenges In B2B Sales

The more we understand that individual we're reaching out to, the issues, the challenges, the goals, the objectives, their professional needs and wants, their personal needs and wants, the better off we're going to be. Even saying that aloud, a lot of that came a long time ago when I had a beautiful long head of hair with Miller Hyman in the late ‘80s. Thinking of the personal professional needs, consensus buying, all of that kind of stuff, it was so very good. If I think back to 1990, why is it that we're still talking about these same things in professional B2B sales? Every once in a while, I have this thing that says, “Why is it taking us so long to get it??

I think it’s taking us so long to get it because we get confused by the shiny object. The shiny object right now is AI. AI can do everything for us. My feeling is this. AI is the ying. We have to be the yang. It's the yin yang thing. Everybody's so focused on what can AI do and can AI expedite this part of the process and do this and this. I think in so doing, it's craving the need for that intimate relationship that you mentioned earlier.

This is what's so valuable. People want to be heard, so they want to be understood. The problem is AI throws all this stuff at you. Great. Nothing wrong with it. By the way, nobody will be replaced by AI. They will be replaced by somebody who is using AI. We get all this AI stuff, but we don't know how to do it. The role of the salesperson is not only is it that consultant, as Daniel Pink was talking about, but I think we are becoming the de person. We have to educate the customer.

Stop and think about what this means. What this means is very simply is the customer is engaging the salesperson further and further downstream in terms of where they are in the sales process. Every study has shown that. That's nothing new. What's happening is the customer is developing all these opinions, they're developing all these views, and as a result, feel that they know what their issue is. The problem is they don't really know. We, the salesperson, has to come in and de-educate the customer. That's not telling them they're stupid, but that's allowing them to see a different light, a different perspective, a different view. We don't do this by breaching at them. We don't do this by developing a presentation and showing it to them. We get it by asking them questions.

Talking to them.

This goes back what Daniel Pink was talking about, the consultants. I remember when I was in Corporate America, there were two consulting groups that we worked with a lot. They would come in and all they did was come in with questions. It seems like every time they left my office, they left my office with another seven-digit deal. Amazing. We have to become better at asking questions to de-educate the customer and to allow them to be open and receptive to new questions we're going to ask that are going to get them believing and perceiving. Here's the whole thing. It doesn't matter what we believe is right for the customer. Totally irrelevant. It's what the customer perceives. Remember, I didn't say believe it's what they perceive because I may believe something, but I don't perceive it. I just can't see how this actually happens. That's where we have to get to with customers.

On the first point, de-educate, I'm a good example of this. I think people can be more informed, but that doesn't mean they're better informed. I'm a good example of this with my health. Something will happen to me, get a little spot on my face, I’ll go on the internet. I'm more informed. I’ve got lots of pages telling me that spot on my face is disaster coming. Until I get in, have a conversation with my doctor who says, “That's called basal cancer.” I said, “Cancer.” He said, “It's meaningless, it's nothing. You'll just take it off with a small scalpel.”

This difference, I think a lot of stuff online scared a lot of people easy, one everybody can relate to medical information. You're more informed, but you're not better informed because you need somebody with experience and expertise to take all that data and say, how does it actually apply to you?

Asking The Right Questions In Sales

This de-educate, I love. The questions to get there, I absolutely love as well. I think that's this critical opportunity for all of us out there in terms of those of us in professional sales, just continually, almost relentlessly figuring out how we help the folks we're working with. It all comes down to questions. When you're working with sales teams, by the way, how do you help them craft those questions? I know you do lots of sales training and you've worked with thousands of salespeople. How is it you help them craft, let's call it those discovery questions that have most impact?

Here's the whole thing, and I'm glad you brought up the term discovery because so many salespeople, what they do is they want to race through the discovery part of sales call to get to the close. I go, “Slow down.” If we would deepen and lengthen the discovery process, we would shorten the close. You know the reason so many salespeople can't close deals. It’s because they didn't do a good enough job in discovery phase.

The discovery phase, what I love doing is this, and this works in B2B. I'm going to first begin with a question relative to the industry. I'm not going to come in and try to get very specific, hone in on them. I want to talk about the industry. Why? It’s because I'm doing two things. One, I want them to feel and understand that I know something about their industry. This isn't my first rodeo.

Two, by getting them talking about the industry, it begins to get them a little more comfortable and a little more relaxed. If I were to come to you and say, “Your baby's ugly,” you're going to get pretty defensive. If I come to you first and start talking about babies in general, then I can begin to get you to realize I'm not saying your baby's ugly, but you get the point. What I'm doing is I'm starting off with the industry. Here's the key thing, and this is where the magic begins to happen. This is where so many discovery processes, discovery meetings break down. People come in with this predetermined list of questions that they want to get through 1 through 12. “We're going to get through all twelve. When we have all twelve answered, we're done.”

I go, “Forget it.” I couldn't care less. I never want to leave a meeting with all my questions answered. What did the salesperson just say? The salesperson just said, “I never want to leave a meeting with all my questions answered.” Why? I want to get to that first 1 or 2 questions and we wind up spending our entire time right there because there's a whole thing. This is what makes a discovery call worthwhile. I ask you a question, and you share a response with me, and I just ask you a follow-up question on that.

Here's something you can take to the bank. Short questions will get you long answers, long questions will get you short answers. How many times have you been talking to somebody and they drone on and on, and somewhere in the middle, there's a question that they're asking, but you have no clue what they were really asking.

Short questions will get you long answers. Long questions will get you short answers.

If I ask you a question, you shared me something and I say, “Can you explain more? Could you give me an example?” That's a short question that gets you a long answer. What I'm doing is this. I'm getting you to believe that I'm listening. That's something unique for salespeople. If I can listen, then I'm hearing things and I'm hearing things. Two, I'm asking you a question, so I'm inviting you to go deeper. When you go deeper, this is when you really begin to uncover. There's a simple number. It's the number seven. Remember the seven degrees of separation? It has gone away because the internet is now one degree of separation. I believe if I can go seven layers deep, it's amazing how much I'm going to know about your business because you're just going to share it with me.

Can I go seven layers deep on that first question? No, but I can go 1 or 2. I may ask another question, then I may come back. It's a little bit like peeling an onion. If I have an onion and I don't eat the whole onion, I peel off all that skin to get down to, I don't know what they call the part that you actually eat. I don't like onions. It’s that part that you actually eat. That's what we're doing. Too many salespeople don't want to peel the onion. They just want to try to get through to the close. My whole idea of you as a salesperson in preparing is you simply ask. You have 1 or 2 questions ready about the industry, and then you begin to drill down from there, “How does that pertain to you? How are you responding to that?”

They will automatically begin taking you to their individual needs and their individual organization. What I'm listening for is this. I'm listening for a key response. The key response is this: When you, the customer, begin sharing proprietary information with me, what's proprietary information? That's information not known publicly. When you begin sharing with me information that's not known publicly, you now trust me. You have a level of confidence in me. That's huge because in the discovery phase, I cannot move out of the discovery phase until I have created a level of trust and confidence with you. Otherwise, the deal is never going to close.

There are a couple of great things to unpack there. One, just on that discovery phase, when we're coaching these days on sales process, Mark, we actually have a discovery phase. The way we teach it is it's every stage of the process. I think that investigation and learning are not. “I started, and I'm done.” That type of discovery is what happens to me when I go to the dentist and the receptionist goes through a checklist to make sure I'm not allergic to penicillin. They've got a checklist and then they're done. She doesn’t know, and she doesn't care. There's no authentic curiosity. I like this alignment at the seven layers down on the onion.

A while back, we had a great guy on the show, somebody you should put on your podcast as well, a guy named Oscar Trimboli, How to Listen. In the episode, Oscar shared that we can think at 900 words a minute, but we can only speak at 125. The average person, we think at 900 words a minute and speak at 125, which almost perfectly aligns with your seven layers because we only get one seventh of the stuff in our head out. When we do something like you suggested, a multiplier question, tell me more. Can you give me an example? What else?

People have more to share. They never get it all out. If you can build that trust so that when you're in discovery asking great questions, you get authentic answers, I think you're in this beautiful position. I do think, though, and you coach a lot of these people, so do I, young people doing prospecting have difficulty building that trust. I'm willing to open up. If you called me, wanted to know what's going on with my business from an entrepreneurial perspective and ask questions, I can open the kimono and tell you everything. If somebody calls me and I can tell they're young, they're uneducated, they don't understand my business, they're kind of pitching, you've got to build that trust to get authentic answers to any form of questions, particularly discovery questions. How do you coach your students on that?

Several different things you got to realize. First of all, it's only a conversation. What happens so many times is young salespeople, not just young, we all do, way too much emphasis on every call. This has got to be the perfect call. Michael Jordan, I still believe he's the greatest NBA player. He made a comment. He said, “I lost more games than I’ve won.” Now think about that. You’ve got to put that in perspective. It's just a conversation. Dial it down. When you come across human, it is amazing at how much more receptive people are. Two, allow them to bring out their personality. Back when we were pre-COVID, that almost sounds like eighteen lifetimes ago.

It feels that way.

We always wanted to make sure that if we were going to do a call, I don't know if Zoom even existed back then, video call, we had to make sure everything was just perfect. It's amazing. I get on calls now. We don't have a dog anymore but when our dog used to bark, I used to go, “Super sales dog. He just closed another sale.” If somebody else's dog bark, totally okay. Just relax. When you relax, it's amazing how the other person begins to come across. Here's a key thing. On every call, you’ve got to remember BAMFAM.

Book A Meeting From A Meeting. With every call, I'm on the phone with you. I have to create a CTA, a call to action. Do you know what's funny? Too many salespeople don't do that. I just go, “BAMFAM.” Book A Meeting From A Meeting. You just simply book the next step. That next step is just going to be to follow up on one thing that you shared with me. That's it.

Here's where young salespeople go off the rails. Many times, it's because their compensation programs. Their compensation program is to get to the demo, and then we'll use the tech company. They're going to have the engineer. That is a big mistake because all engineers want to do is prove to everyone how smart they are. Not good.

My whole goal is I don't want to race to the demo. Here's why. When I race to the demo, I don't know what it is that you're looking for. New salespeople don't sit there and say, “If we get to the demo, we're going to show them, then they'll be able to tell us what they want.” No. A confused buyer does not buy. You never go to the demo until you know exactly what it is their challenge is. In the demo, you only show them that small little piece that is going to help them with that problem that they have. That's it. Don't show them. You don't open up the kimono because here's the deal. My whole goal in sales is to simplify things. When I simplify it, everybody gets along a lot better.

A confused buyer does not buy.

I'm smiling ear to ear. What percentage of Excel do you think we actually use?

One percent.

Way back in MBA school, I couldn't believe what that thing can do. It's a relational database. Everybody uses somewhere between 1% and 3% of it. Imagine if we tried to demo Excel and showed Solver and all of it, people would just go, “Oh my goodness.” What do people use it for? “I want to do a personal budget. I want to do a P&L. I want to do basic math equation.” I love this idea. Just have a conversation. Be you. Be the best version of you. Don't be the grumpy and tired and hungry Mark Cox. Let's try and be the well caffeinated, well-fed Mark Cox. There you go. We've got product placement there for Starbucks. I absolutely love that idea. Take confidence that you're well prepared for a call so you know who you're reaching out to.

You know the business they're in and the industry they're in. Psychologically, I think those things give us a little more confidence, particularly when we're new to sales. We've maybe earned the right. I always like trying to add a little bit of a point of data into a question. Do I have some industry research on their industry? Do I have a couple of data points that might be helpful? Can I identify the top three trends going on in their industry so that I could say, “Are these things affecting your business or how are they impacting your business?”

At least it cut a little bit of the Cialdini. There's a little reciprocity in place because I’ve done some work for the call and they'll acknowledge it in some way. They're not going to give me a sale or guarantee the call to action, but they might give me a couple of minutes more on the call or have a more authentic call.

It’s so key what you shared there because that's what AI can do for us. I can use AI. What are the challenges the industry's facing and so forth. This is what's beautiful. The tighter our ICP, our ideal customer profile, and the tighter the lane with which we prospect, the more information we're going to know about the industry, and the better off we are going to be. That's the beauty of AI. Any salesperson who goes into a sales call unprepared nowadays is stupid. It's all right there. Just with a couple keystrokes, I can get the answers I'm looking for.

Mark, I did it, a sales call with a new executive, new CRO with an existing client of ours. I was meeting the individual for the first time, and I know the questions that I'd like to ask. I’ve written them out and then I just went through the exercise over a nice cup of coffee and had the right prompts for AI. We use a customized ChatGPT. They know us, they know the book, they know our show. The questions it spat back out in two minutes were better than mine.

Mark's Keynote Presentation At Outbound

I took it and just added to it. There were a couple of real nuggets there, and it was effortless. Everybody reading, please jump into your tools with AI. Mark, we're going to be, this will go live about three weeks after your keynote presentation at Outbound. You're one of handful of sales thought leaders in the entire world invited to participate with Jeb Blount and Anthony Iannorino. Brynne Tillman is at that one, I think, some great people. They've all been on the show. Jeb's scheduled on the show. We've had some scheduling issues. Do you want to share a little bit about the theme of what you are going to be speaking to? I guess you'll all have your own kind of specific topics and themes, any nuggets you want to share, knowing it's already out in the public domain by the time this goes out.

Yeah. Here's what I'm talking about. It resonates with anybody and everybody. First of all, if we have the ability to help someone, we owe it to them to reach out to them. That's what prospecting's all about. If I have the ability, and I love to set this up by saying, if I have problems, and trust me, ask my kids, they will tell you, “Dad has a lot of problems,” and I knew that you, Mark, could help me, I would want you to reach out to me. If I found out later that you did not reach out to me, you could have helped me, I'd be disappointed.

We have the ability to help someone. We owe it to them to reach out. That's what prospecting is all about.

What we're doing is we're doing our prospects, our lead, our customers a service by reaching out. That, to me, takes all hesitation away. It's no longer a cold call. What I'm going to be talking about is how you really determine your ICP. How do you get very tight? I have a series of nine criteria. If a lead comes into me, if they don't check off at least six of those after that first call, that first inquiry, I don't go any further with them.

In fact, I typically look for 7 or 8. Some of the things are, are they in an industry that I'm familiar with? Are they in an industry that I work with? Do they appear to have challenges that I’ve helped people with before? In other words, they may be in an industry, but they're coming to me with an HR problem. I don't do HR. Three, is the level of person that is talking to me, are they very similar in nature to other people I have talked to and have completed deals with? There are nine criteria that I go through. What's very interesting is I'm a strange duck. I'm a little bit weird in that I’ll still take the phone call, I’ll still set up a phone call with you even if I think you may only get to 4 or 5.

What I'm doing is I'm doing it for one reason. I'm going to refer you to somebody else. This is the beautiful thing. When I refer you to somebody else, I’ve made two sales because you, the customer, you, the lead didn't work out, so I referred you to somebody else. I still made you happy. Guess what? My whole goal is to help people. Impact and influence people. I was able to influence you. Two, the person I referred loves me. I’ve now got two people that are singing my praises out there. Not a bad gig. That's great. Don't scare away from those. Take it, but refer it. By the way, the more people you refer, the more referrals you're going to wind up getting yourself.

It's a good approach. You're true to your values. Your values are, “I'm in this because I want to have impact and help people.” We would've had a conversation like that years ago with the business, and then it would come back. Suddenly, somebody comes back to you and now they're running something material. Now they are your ICP. First of all, I think it's just good karma out there, but I think it's just a great idea.

Staying Current And Informed In Sales

When we're running a show like this, of course, we're going to point to all the resources. Mark, for you, High-Profit Selling, High-Profit Prospecting, A Mind For Sales. That's what we talked about in our last episode. We just read the book. Where does The Sales Hunter go for thought leadership, insight, knowledge? Obviously, you stay current with everything going on out there. You run your own podcast, you listen to other podcasts. For people out there that have that growth orientation, outside of reading your books and all that kind of good stuff, how do you stay current with what's going on? How do you keep that level of business acumen knowledge for our discipline up to snuff? What do you do?

First of all, sales is not a solo activity. Sales is a team sport. I want to surround myself with as many brilliant people. We become the sum of the five people we associate with. That line first was said years ago, but it absolutely applies. Here's the deal. I am a voracious reader currently. I just happen to have this book. I listen to podcasts. I spend time on LinkedIn. I follow the thought leaders on LinkedIn. I'm just constantly curating ideas in my head. Here's something magical. Top performers. Top performers never go into any situation without a sense of, “I'm going to learn something here.” When you go into any conversation, podcast, anything that you listen to, anything that you part with the attitude, “I'm going to learn something,” it is amazing what you learn. I'm binging on a podcast called Acquired.

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Selling: Sales is not a solo activity. It's a team sport, so I want to surround myself with as many brilliant people as possible because we become the sum of the five people we associate with.

It's by two tech guys, one out of Seattle, one out of San Francisco, and they do 3, 4, 5-hour podcasts on various companies. Nvidia, Microsoft, Amazon, venture capitalists, PE firms. It's mind blowing. I love it because it just challenges my thinking. Some of them are pretty deep, very deep thinking, but I love that. I go into it with the idea that I'm going to learn something. Same thing with books. Average people will sit there and say, “I don't want to read this book. I don't want to do this because there's nothing to learn here.” That's why they're average people.

I got to tell one short story. He has since passed away. Charlie Munger. Berkshire Hathaway, Warren Buffet's sidekick. He just passed away at the age of 99. Years ago, I was watching an interview of him, Warren Buffett and Bill Gates by Becky Quick. Becky Quick of CNBC was asking the three of them, “What books are you reading right now?” I couldn't remember what Warren Buffett and Bill Gates said, but Charlie Munger, probably at the age of 90 or 91 at the time, made a comment and says, “I'm reading a couple of books on electrical engineering.”

Becky Quick stopped and said, “Excuse me?” He said, “Yes, electrical engineering.” She said, “Why?” He says, “I don't feel I’ve ever learned enough about electrical engineering, so I figured I'd better learn now.” This is a gentleman who's 91 years of age and worth billions. He'd have every reason to say, “Screw it, I'm done reading.” That was a wake-up call.

When I caught that interview years ago, it was a wake-up call. That was something I learned. Everything you participate in, if you're a top performer, you will learn something. It’s like this show. You read The Selling Well podcast, you come away with it. What's the idea? It may not be a direct idea. It may be an indirect idea. In other words, something you say, something you say or one of your guests says, and you go, “I'm going to apply that this way.” The yin and yang.

Everything you participate in as if you're a top performer, you will learn something.

I’ve never run one of these where I didn't learn something. The truth of it is the joy of this show, you know this, is you and I book time. I know we've got to do this. I’ve got to read what you've written. Now I got this time limit, I got to get through it. I’ll be honest with you, years ago, I remember the first few guests. I'd read some books and I was a little judgmental of books. I had a little bit of that sort of attitude about me to a certain extent. I talked to this person on an episode and go, “They have so much wisdom to share.” That judgment dissipated. Now I love reading everyone's book because there's something in there for everyone.

If you want to find the learning, there's amazing learning. There are textbooks. Frank Cespedes from Harvard's written nine of them, Aligning Strategy and Sales. That's a textbook and it's dynamite. There are other ones that are much simpler. Very short books, but have great nuggets of insight and knowledge in there. By the way, if you're a professional athlete or something, you're always trying to glean that 1%, that 0.5%. How do I shoot slightly different? How do I tape my stick? Okay, what am I going to do when the guy comes around the neck? All of these things. Just this 1%, it does compound.

We knew we would get to hockey night in Canada somehow.

We had to.

Probably the best sales book, Atomic Habits by James Clear. Isn't Atomic Habits by James Clear so awesome? It's about that 1%. It's about those little things that you just repeat. It's amazing at how success comes from doing the little things repeatedly.

James Clear, Atomic Habits. British racing team had never won a Tour de France, never even placed, and they go in and say nine different things. “We're going to just try and improve literally 0.5%.” The cleanliness of the bike, the hygiene of the riders while they're training. Tiny things. It doesn't mean you have to work out five times as much. Suddenly, they start to get world champions. James Clear, if you're reading, you're one of a handful of people I couldn't get on this show. Almost everybody else has said yes. James Clear, we've named your book. Please, do us a favor, join the show.

Before you go on The Selling Well Podcast, you got to come on The Sales Hunter Podcast because I brought your name up first.

It's a team effort here. We're sending them right over, Mark. Team, we've talked about some great things. We have links to Mark's fantastic books, which I’ve read. Mind for Sales, High-Profit Selling, High-Profit Prospecting, on which Mark is an expert. Those of you who are joining them at Outbound, have a fantastic time. Those of you aren't, Mark, how do folks get in touch with you to learn more about you?

The best way is TheSalesHunter.com. That's where the website is. Everything starts there. People always ask me, “You’re known as The Sales Hunter. What was your name before you changed it?” That's my last name my entire life. There's a podcast by the same name. I'm out there on LinkedIn, just type in Mark Hunter, The Sales Hunter. I have another podcast called Sales Logic. If you can't find me, something's wrong. I'm out there.

If you can't find him, you shouldn't be in sales. You can find him. He is everywhere. We'd like to thank Mark. Mark, thank you so much for joining. Team, we'd like to thank you for reading. We run this show to kind of be the mini MBA for B2B professional sales. We think if we can help improve the performance and professionalism of B2B sales, we can actually improve the lives of professional salespeople. That's what we want to do.

If you enjoyed this episode, please like and subscribe to it because that's how we get great guests like Mark. Also, please know we love constructive criticism. We know we can get better at doing this and make it even more valuable to you. If you have an idea or two, please send it to MarkCox@InTheFunnel.com. That's my personal email that I check and we respond to every idea we get. We love constructive criticism. Thanks for sending your advice. We'd like to wish everybody a great couple of weeks and we're going to see you next time.

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Mark delivers engaging keynote speeches, training workshops, and consulting services, based on his three best-selling books: A Mind for Sales, High-Profit Prospecting, and High-Profit Selling. He challenges sales myths and empowers sales teams to adopt new strategies and practices that increase their top-line sales and bottom-line profits.

Mark is recognized as a Top 50 Most Influential Sales and Marketing Leader, and travels globally almost 230 days a year, working with diverse industries and clients. His mission is to inspire salespeople to see and achieve what they didn't think was possible.

Do It! Selling: Strategies For Success In Today's Market With David Newman

Offer value, invite engagement—that’s the key to winning in sales. In this episode, Mark Cox sits down with David Newman, the author of Do It! Selling: 77 Instant-Action Ideas to Land Better Clients, Bigger Deals, and Higher Fees, to dive into the secrets behind his no-fluff, high-impact approach to sales. David’s journey from a theater major struggling in New York to a successful consultant is filled with hard-earned lessons that every entrepreneur can relate to. Together, they explore how to overcome the aversion to sales, the power of asking the right questions, and the importance of consistent, value-driven content. Whether you’re new to the game or looking to refine your strategy, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you land better clients and close bigger deals.

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Do It! Selling:  Strategies For Success In Today's Market With David Newman

We've got a great conversation here. This episode is with David Newman. He is the author of Do It! Selling: 77 Instant-Action Ideas to Land Better Clients, Bigger Deals, and Higher Fees. He is a professional services sales expert. He works with leading consultants, coaches, and speakers who want to land better clients, bigger deals, and higher fees. He's got a specific target market, but these 77 instant action ideas are universal in terms of smart methodical B2B sales. They're applicable to all sorts of folks, which is why I was excited to get him on the show.

The other thing is that it's an extremely well-written book. With these 77 ideas, David has gone through the effort of making them concise and powerful, leveraging core concepts and B2B sales, and providing tools you can download to apply the idea. I love the way the book is laid out. It's a book that you're going to leave on your bookshelf and go back to repeatedly because it gets specific on things like scripts, ideas, and approaches to conversations.

One of the things I like so much is David's simple clarity in the way he writes and speaks. He's got this simple and clear but powerful definition for something like marketing words that offer value, invite engagement, a simple definition of selling, send invitations, and spark conversations. We talk about a couple of different concepts in the book, not all 77, but we do get to the first conversations. He's got five powerful tips for first-contact calls. We get into all of them. We get into the four ways to create follow-up magic. It’s powerful. A little bit of a spoiler alert. The first one always leads off with the prospect's comments from the previous call.

David started this career after starting in the theater. We're going to read about that journey. He’s an interesting fellow. He’s the host of his own podcast called The Selling Show. It's got over 400 episodes. You're going to enjoy this conversation with David Newman. I know I did. If you do, please like and subscribe because that helps us. Thank you for doing that. That's how we get great guests like David.


David, welcome to the show. I was excited to talk to you.

Mark, it's great to be here. Thanks for having me.

We only interview the folks who've written books in selling that we like, David. I got a call that said, “There are many things I like about Do It! Selling: 77 Instant-Action Ideas to Land Better Clients, Bigger Deals, and Higher Fees that I've already bought Do It! Marketing.” I haven't gotten it yet. I did it this morning, but I've got the Do It! Marketing coming my way because I'm in your target market. A lot of these things are so applicable, and I learned many things from them. I had a chance to listen to a few episodes of The Selling Show. I got asked this question because it seems clear that you were a Theater and Drama major. How does a Theater and Drama major end up being an expert in selling, professional services, and coaching?

From Theater To Sales

I started college pre-med. I failed out of Chemistry, Physics, and Calculus all in the same semester. I decided to change my major to Drama and English. I had so much fun doing that. I went to graduate school and got an MFA in Stage Directing. I did several years of professional theater in New York City. That was a crazy episode, but I wasn't making any money because it's hard to make money in theater in New York City. It's like going to LA to be an actor. You end up waiting tables.

A friend of mine says, “There's this adjunct professor thing opening. This was a guy who had the job. He was moving away. Would you like to interview for my adjunct faculty position?” I started teaching in my graduate school. I did that for a couple of years to make ends meet. Another friend says, “You could do this teaching thing for companies.” That's called corporate training.

In 1992, I launched my corporate training and consulting career. That spanned three different jobs. I did that for several years. I ended up with some HR consulting management, technology, and firms. Dumb as I was, in 2002, I said, “I can do this on my own. I know how to teach, train, and consult. How hard can it be?” Mark, I found out how hard it can be because when you're on your own and leave the corporate nest, it's about selling the work. It's not about doing the work.

I knew nothing about marketing, sales, lead generation, and business development. I was a babe in the woods. I was also a generalist consultant and trainer. I had 30 different workshops and 30 different topics. I realized that if I wanted to eat, I needed to learn how to sell. I read all kinds of books. I connected with mentors. I took courses. I became a student of the game. About several years into this, I'm like, “I have no niche. I have nothing. The sales and marketing thing is pretty cool. Why don't I teach what I'm learning to folks who are several years behind where I am?” That was the whole genesis of how the drama major ended up in a marketing and sales training role.

Do It! Books

Here we are, fast forward 1,800 clients later, you've worked for some of the largest organizations in the world. I’m having finished my first book. David's got three books, Do it! Selling, Do It! Marketing, and Do It! Speaking. I'm amazed at a couple of things, David. I'll call out to those folks who are going to pick up this book, and you should. First of all, the design and clarity of the book, it's a good-looking book. It's easy to read. I love the fact you don't see a lot of color books out there. These things matter. We dream in technicolor. That’s something I'm taking away from myself next time.

Do It! Selling: 77 Instant-Action Ideas to Land Better Clients, Bigger Deals, and Higher Fees

The way you've laid this out, these short snippets and action ideas that are clear. It feels to me like you're the example of that Mark Twain quote, “I wrote you a long letter. If I had taken more time, I would've written you a short letter.” You took the time to write a short letter. It's all gold. There's no fluff. There are no stories that aren't relevant. There's no filler.

In many of these action items, there are tools you can download to apply the concept in the book. It’s a bit of the Bucky Fuller. Those of you who are Mensa candidates remember Bucky Fuller, the Founder of Mensa, who said, “If you want to teach someone, don't bother teaching them. Show them how to use a tool because that's how you teach them for life.” It's a spectacular read.

A lot of times, when we have guests on the show, David, what I'll do is I'll read and highlight the book. I'm going to go back and dictate my highlights. I have a two-page summary. I can go back to it someday because I want to retain it. I'm not saying this for the show. This is the book that would stay on my shelf because I'm going to go back. There are some things I've picked up here that are helpful. There's a clarity of message. It's the way you are. Maybe it comes from the theater background, but was that an intentional focus to make sure it's short, clear, and powerful?

All three of my books are written in this format. I call them microchapters. When folks come to me and say, “David, I want to write a book, but I don't have time to write.” I say, “Don't worry. They don't have time to read. Write short.” If I put my whole publishing philosophy into four words, it would be to write short and market hard.

It was a book publishing blog. This was in the last couple of years. They were saying about short attention spans. Everyone wants to write the 50,000 to 60,000-word mega monster business book. They were saying, “If you're sending this to CEOs, VPs, or busy senior corporate leaders, they don't have time. Don't write a book. Write half a book.” That was the advice.

Two hours and thirteen minutes is the flight time from New York to Chicago. If they can read it, scan it, or skim it and get enough of an idea of your professional expertise in those two hours, because, Mark, folks like you and I don't get hired based on books that clients do not finish. It’s like, “Did you read David's book?” “I only got about a third of the way through it and put it aside because it was too dense and hard to read.”

Microchapters do two things to help experts. Number one, it helps to encapsulate your thinking in a short, sharp, little package. It also makes the book more digestible because, Mark, I'm sure you read a lot. I read a lot. We want to have that completion complex. We want to have that little happiness going off in our brains with dopamine. I finished another chapter. It's like, yeah, you read a page and a half. If you read a page and a half, and you're seeing the next chapter right there, you're like, “I'm making progress.”

The best compliment that I got on all three of my books is a backhanded compliment. They said, “David, I love your writing style. It's perfect bathroom reading.” I was like, “I will take that in the spirit it is intended.” That was the nature of the microchapters and the short, sharp, clear little nuggets that are the writing style.

We're critical of sales books. Because of the show and my nature, I've read hundreds of sales books. We've had over 100 guests on this show. Out of consideration, we read the books they write before they come on the show. There are some fundamental truths that you've got in here. We've heard that people who have lived this life understand. Because you've got a specific target niche that you're trying to support and help coaches, consultants, and trainers looking to get bigger clients, bigger deals, and higher fees, you get practical. When you're talking about a sales process or a first call with someone, you give specific examples of the four things to do. Here are a couple of turns of phrases you can use.

If you're in that category, this is the book you can pull away. You will go back to it, and you'll start to leverage some of the, I won't call them scripts as much as guides, but they're logical. You're also referencing some sales fundamentals that are universal regardless of who's reading. Whether or not you're a trainer, a coach, or a consultant, getting through that first call is critical. There are a couple of ideas that are powerful. People can take away these tips no matter what they do. If you don't mind, we'll jump into a couple to get right into it.

Whenever someone has the book in front of them, there's a little voice in my head going, “I hope I remember what I wrote and what he's about to call out here.”

When we're in front of a group of people, every once in a while, there's somebody who's a zealot and reads every episode. They go, “Mark, you referenced this data point, and this reference point from CSO Insights back in 1987,” I go, “It doesn't even ring a bell. It doesn't even sound like me.” I'll give you some context.

Action item number four, do you love selling? It was the one that jumped out at me. Given the title of our book, Learn to Love Selling, do you love selling? You have to believe in selling. You have to understand that people have some of these challenges. I love that down at the bottom, we might be feeling anxious and depressed. We get paralyzed, overwhelmed, and mystified. The summary point that says no sales, no clients, no money, no bueno. That's simple. You have to do it. Are we going to be the best pizza parlor that's never had somebody come in the front door, or are you Dominoes?

This is where it's not selling expertise that comes from the book. There's this expertise you have as a growth-oriented entrepreneur. There are many of those other entrepreneur books. There wasn't a question on this one so much as we wanted to call it out because of the title of our book. Let's go to the definitions. I love the definitions. You've come up with these four-word definitions. One is for marketing. Let's talk about the top end and sales.

This leads to a mindset. It makes it so much more helpful for those who didn't grow up in sales or those of us who didn't decide we wanted to be in professional sales when we were ten years old. That's 99.999% of anybody who's in professional sales now. On the marketing front, forward definition, offer value, and invite engagement. It doesn't sound so hard.

Marketing

My first book was about marketing. My second book was about speaking as both a marketing tool and a sales tool. This book has a sales focus. People are not afraid of marketing. They might not understand it. They might not do it well. They might think it's pitchy and like, “Buy my stuff.” The sales part, which you're an expert in, that's where the fear comes in. They don't want to be salesy. They don't want to be pushy. There's a whole population of entrepreneurs that are sales averse, which is why your book is important.

Conversation

From a marketing standpoint, when people say, “I'm hesitant to market my stuff. I don't want to be always talking about me, my offers, my services, my programs, and my products because that gets old.” I would agree with you. That does get old, and it doesn't work. Offer value invite engagement is about how to be radically generous and radically helpful. Provide content that people will benefit from even if they never buy from you.

Is your marketing content, and I mean your social posts, newsletters, LinkedIn profile, and LinkedIn posts, can people extract value from them? When you read Mark's book, LinkedIn, and articles, and when you watch the YouTube channel, are you saying to yourself, “This is valuable. Imagine if I became a client?” That's offer value. Out the goods out there in the marketplace.

A lot of folks are afraid of doing that because they’re like, “That's my stuff. If I give this away, they're not going to hire me. If you don't give it away, there's no way they're going to hire you. If you give it away, a small, teeny, tiny percentage are going to be able to run with the ball and get some initial result. No way are they going to get the massive transformational results of the clients who hire you. Part one is offer value.

With invite engagement, I hear this a lot from clients and friends who say, “David, I've been sending a weekly newsletter for several years. It's never given me a shred of business. David, I posted the one-minute video on LinkedIn every single morning for the last several years, and it's never brought me a shred of business..” I look at these newsletters and watch these videos. I say, “There's no invitation. There's no next step. There's no like, comment, subscribe, opt-in, or book a call.

The call to action and the invitation to participate further are not buy my stuff and hire me. The invitation could be simple, like, “Can I get an amen?” Comment and like are the easy ones. A little bit more involvement and engagement is like, “Do you want to download this thing? Are you willing to trade your email address for a free PDF, video training, and mini-course?” That's level two. It’s more of a commitment because you know that you're opting into their world.

Level three is like, “If you think this might be helpful to you, let's book a chat. Let's discuss where you're at. If we can help you, it’s great. If not, we'll point you in the right direction, and there will be no harm or foul.” When I look at these several years of email newsletters, and there's not a single invitation to take the next step, people are lazy, busy, and befuddled.

All the folks that are reading are saying, “They know the next step. They could have replied to that email. They could have called my phone number, which is right there on my website.” They could have, but because they're lazy, busy, and befuddled, you don't tell them exactly what to do. Inertia is going to take them off into something else. They're going to click off, scroll by, delete that email, and say, “This guy, Bob Jones, has an amazing email newsletter.” They might even be hiring someone else because they don't know all the things that you do.

How many times have we gone to a prospect or even a new client, and the client hires you for something, and you found out that last year, they hired someone else that does something that you do, but the client never knew that you did? They’re like, “Mark, I wish I knew that you did sales assessments and sales kickoff meetings. We hired this other person to do our sales kickoff, and it was disappointing. I wish we knew that you were a speaker.”

You're a speaker, but if there's no invitation at the bottom of the email newsletter, for example, hire Mark for your next sales meeting, sales conference, or sales kickoff, here's the info packet. Put that in there so that you're not trusting people to use their own initiative. You're giving them a clear next step in how to engage with you. That's an invitation.

I love the focus on those four words. This is something that you refined over the years, but it's powerful. I couldn't help but smile when you were talking about that, David, because we do many things where we're training big groups of people. It's hard for people to process the fact that they may have explained to the community, a client, or a prospect exactly what their business did. They have a hard time understanding Hermann Ebbinghaus’s Forgetting Curve, which says, “An hour after the meeting, that person forgot between 50% and 75% of everything you said. A month from now, it's 90% to 95%.” People go, “What do you mean? It seems difficult.”

One of the things that has been helpful for me going from the corporate world to becoming an entrepreneur several years ago is that I am befuddled by many things that are on my radar regarding things that I want to do with the business. These things are passing ideas, and the night they come, they go. Every day, I can only get through the three things that are most important for our business.

This idea of staying front of mind, that the number of times somebody engages us and we end up into this conversation. As we get through the conversation, they say, “I've been following you for several years.” You go, “For several years, didn't you think to trigger a conversation several years ago?” We do have those calls to action, but they don't. They want to get familiar with you. They want to make sure there's some value in what you share. It's on their timeframes. It's such a helpful point and a beautiful definition.

Let me do a public service announcement. If you've been following Mark Cox for the last several months, you know he is the real deal. Get on his calendar, pick up the phone, reply to the email, and comment on the show. Several months is all you need for Mark Cox. You don't need several years to wait.

David, remember you said, could you come on more often? You're going to be on every second episode now. There you go. If you're open to doing that in that voice, you're on every second episode. Let's do the episode together.

Clip that out and use it as a commercial.

The four words from marketing are offer value and invite engagement. Double-click value. The four-word definition for selling is to send an invitation and spark a conversation. What do you mean by a conversation?

One of our mantras that shows up somewhere in the book is nothing good happens outside of a conversation. You can send emails until you're blue in the face. You can post on social media. You can even send cookies in the mail. You can send an amazing $50 pen to an executive with whom you want to have a conversation. None of that matters until we are voice-to-voice, screen-to-screen, or face-to-face. This is an area where the sales-averse. This is the part that terrifies them.

Mark, what happens when the dog catches the car? I got a call on Tuesday. The guy replied to me. He wants to have a call with me on Tuesday. Their heads explode. Everything that we do in marketing and the front end of sales, like prospecting and lead generation outreach, is designed to bring you into that first conversation. People have this like, “This is a huge pressure moment. I have to sell, pitch, and blast them with my amazingness. Nothing could be further from the truth.”

No matter what business you're in, you could be selling products, services, or expertise, the framework that I recommend that you hold this initial conversation in, and there are a lot of guides, frameworks, and language that you can use in this first contact meeting. Think of it as if you're already hired. They're already a client. You have nothing to hide and prove. The way that I open these conversations is, “Mark, great to speak with you. Let me ask you. Do you mind if I treat you like a fee-paid client during this call?” People will say, “That would be great. You can even see their body language change.” Sometimes, they go, “What does that mean?” I say, “I'm glad you asked.”

It means a couple of things. Number one, it means that I want to make sure that we maximize the value of our time together for you, which also means that I'm going to ask your permission to interrupt and productively redirect if I feel our conversation is going off track. I would do this with a paying client. Number three, there may be some things that you share with me. I'm going to tell you the honest truth. I'm going to tell you what you need to hear, not necessarily what you want to hear about you, your company, and your team.

Do I have your permission to do that? They say yes. They're already in the house. They're already in the family. All the pressure that's on you as a seller has gone away. You can start doing your initial diagnosis. What's been going on? What prompted you to book this call? What's wrong with your leadership, sales team, technology, and innovation that we're helping them with? How long has that been a problem? What do you think is costing you time, dollars, hours, profit, percentages, rework, wasted time, and wasted effort? We're in a conversation. Look at every prospect as if they're already a client, and they don't know it, or they haven't signed off on the paperwork. The more you treat prospects like clients, the more clients you will get.


This is tip number 29. Five tips for first contact calls. The first one is a great opening question. The second one, do you mind if I treat you like a feed-pay client? It's the same script that David went through, which is powerful. This is the dirty little secret that trainers, consultants, anybody in professional services, lawyers, engineers, and consultants don't know.

The truth is this is the easiest part of the conversation because all you are doing is pulling information from them with amazing questions that get them trying to paint this better future for themselves. They're emotionally connected to either the pain they're in or the better future. You are sitting back and asking questions.

My belief is that most of the folks get a lot of these folks, like lawyers, financial professionals, and consultants. Their concern is they think they need to pitch. We're going to get the PowerPoint. My rule of thumb is never to open PowerPoint again during a conversation. It will kill your conversation. Don't go anywhere near a demo. Don't go anywhere near PowerPoint. Have a conversation.

Get Into Action

The easiest one in the world is thank you so much for setting up time with me. I'm delighted to chat with you. I took a look at your website. It looks like you've been growing. Congrats on the acquisition. I'm excited to hear about that. On LinkedIn, it looks like you've got 125 employees, but you get seven open job postings. Things are moving in the right direction. I’m excited to hear all of it. What prompted you to reach out to me?

It’s something crazy easy, nice, and open-ended. We can sit back and have this conversation. You and I are having this conversation. You've packaged this up for your audience in a new way. We've been doing this for several years, packaging up. The reality of it is that this is what Dale Carnegie suggested we should be doing in 1939.

You'll love this, David. At one point in time, I had this, and I wouldn't call it imposter syndrome, but it was perplexing me that in our company, we hadn't come up with a brand new way of helping another human being that no one's ever thought of before. That would be the magic potion that would completely change B2B selling. It perplexed me so much. I went down to see one of our friends, Frank Cespedes. Through this show, we got to know him from Harvard. He has written nine books on B2B selling. He is fantastic. He's been teaching the sales program at Harvard for many years.

I had this conversation with him. I said, “I feel like an impostor at times because, Frank, I've been doing this for many years. Nothing's changed. This is what I was doing in 1995 to be successful.” He brought up a great point. He said he had had this big group of super high-end entrepreneurs at a Harvard course. He was having a conversation with them. It wasn't resonating. He went back to some principles in search of excellence back in 1992. He said this thing lit them all on fire. He said, “Sometimes, you have to take these universal principles, but they need to come out in the voice of that generation for that particular group.”

There was a theme of this in your book, David. A lot of these are fundamental truths. The second thing I thought was that you should take it a level down because you make it simple for somebody in professional services to understand the concept but immediately apply it. The other thing I love about early in the book is that after about section one, David says, “Let's take a pause. What have you done with the information in the book so far? Are you going to make some behavioral changes here? Are you going to read another book?” What a great move. That screamed right from the page. You want me to do better, not to sell another book or do another workshop, but you want to change someone's behavior. I bet you get a lot of feedback on that.

The whole Do It concept and get into action are all about implementation. Great ideas are a dime a dozen. This is why there are a million weight loss books and how to get rich books. The key to weight loss is to move more and eat less. The key to becoming a zillionaire is to spend less and save more. There are a million personal finance books out there. The ideas are useless. The implementation and the execution of the ideas.

Given the stage and phase of the business that you're running, your market, audience, and prospects that you're marketing and selling to, you'll know how to adapt these ideas to your own personality preferences and strengths. It’s the same thing, Mark. In your book, we can keep reading until we're blue in the face, and no one is going to sell anything anymore. It's about the implementation of the ideas.

Sometimes, we can be relentless. People will say, “Mark, I love your podcast. This podcast is amazing. I read your book three times. I highlighted every other page. You say, “That's beautiful. Thank you for the kind compliments. I'm curious. How has listening to the podcast or reading the book impacted your sales results?” They start looking at their shoes. Their shoes start to get fascinating. They're looking down, and they’re like, “I still love your ideas so much. You're such a rock star. You're amazing.”

You and I leave those conversations a little bit deflated. We're not here to write books and publish podcasts. We're here to help people tap into their inner potential that, for some reason, has been blocked up until now because they're sales averse or they don't have the sales skills, discipline, or conditioning that they need to reach their goals. I love it when people appreciate my ideas, but I love it more when they make money with them.

Follow-Up Magic

David, I couldn't agree more. There are two stories. We end up with some of the clients we work with. We used to help them and teach them how to interview salespeople. It’s a tricky thing to do with one in three churns every year. I want you to hear a lot of interviews with professional salespeople. You'd say, “Is there any methodology you follow? Have you had any training before in your career?” They'll come back and say, “I read The Challenger Sale by Matt Dixon and Brent Adamson.” We're going to go, “We've had both of them on the show. What are you applying from that book?” This is where the shoes get attractive. They've taken nothing from it.

I love the idea of clarity in your book, which is something people should apply almost every day. You talk about that. One of the important things is it has to be a habit. It has to be something we think about and do every day. We had another client who was one of our first clients ever from several years ago. They used to continue to send all their new salespeople to our training, and their leaders who would come to our training.

At one point in time, they brought us into their office to do some work. We could still see these templates that we had given, but they were the ten-year-old templates from the early days. They were still leveraging them. We felt happy that they were trying to operationalize and still get value from what we had done.

We do it differently now when we're doing large group training. We'll do the training, but before we do the training, we define specific desired outcomes, metrics, and outcomes that we want several months after the training. As part of the training, we regroup with the leadership team to track progress with senior management. We keep the sales leadership team accountable to make sure we're executing these things, and they don't go through another sales kickoff where it was fun but didn't change any behavior. We want to make that change critical.

I want to call out one other thing. We're not going to go through 77 of these ideas. Many of the people who are reading this are looking for something they can take away and apply. Item number 58, 4 ways to create follow-up magic. The number one need of most human beings outside of food, water, and sustenance is to feel like they are heard. Always lead off with the prospect's comments from the previous call. Did you even hear what they were saying, “Start there and break the wall completely down?” This is all part of feeling like they're already doing business with you.

One of the top sales minds out there, in our view, is a guy named Andy Paul. He's probably into 1,500 podcasts. He's spoken to everybody. One of the phrases he loves to to use, which we like, is, “The folks who win in a sales situation are the folks that the buyer believes understand them and their situation better than anybody else.” You get comfortable.

It's not about prices you bring up or service features. Those things oftentimes don't even matter. Does this individual understand our world and what's important to us? They didn't hear us. They understood what we were saying. I love the easy one. It’s to ask follow-up questions to every statement they make. Who, what, how, and why. These multipliers keep them talking.

It's the who else, what else, how else, where else, and why else? Who else will notice these improvements? What else would be important to them? How else do you think you might benefit? Where else has this been a problem? All of those who, what, where, and why else questions are sales multipliers. Those are revenue multipliers because, from the prospect, you're inviting them to share with you what the problem multipliers are. When you have problem multipliers from your client, you have sales multipliers for multiple different ways that you can help them solve those multiple problems.

Sometimes, people believe this is self-evident, but you'll ask a question like that of a senior executive. They haven't thought about the answer until they say it out loud because you ask the question. It imprints. They are emotionally tied to it. You ask a question. How big a priority is the firm for this? Somebody comes back and goes, “It's an interesting question. If we don't fix this revenue issue, I won't be in this chair several months from now.”

There have got to be a top three. What are the other two out of interest? What are the implications if we don't address this? I'm not going to have a job. These are the things that crystallize in the mind of the buyer. I love a conversation in a follow-up call where somebody comes back and goes, “That's a good question.” That means we did our job. You talk about that in the first conversation, doing some myth-busting and adding value.

It occurs to me that even if we misread the situation badly and ask a question about something that's not important to them at all, and the executive comes back with, “Mark, that's the least of our problems.” Have the presence of mind to say. “Got it. What are the top three?” We don't care about that at all. That's the least of our problems. What's the top three in the most category? Have some fun with it. The other thing is amateur sellers put so much pressure on themselves. They're serious. Professional sellers like you and me like to have fun. We like to make the prospect smile or maybe even sometimes laugh. We humanize the sales conversation with humor. That makes selling so much more easy and fun.

Amateur sellers put so much pressure on themselves whereas professional sellers like to have fun.

We were talking about dopamine at the beginning. We’re familiar with dopamine. Curiosity also triggers dopamine. When we're asking them those questions, this is why it's so easy if you do it this way and have this conversation. The whole conversation's about them. To be authentically curious about the answers, they're not answers leading to my sales pitch. They're answers where I'm authentically curious about how to help this person get a better future. You or I are clear. If we can help them, it’s wonderful. If we can't help them, but there's somebody else we know who could help them, we'll be the first to do that. We understand good things come when you take this approach. Your intent comes across.

More so than any sales technique you come from. What you're talking about is where you come from, your intention, and your character. No matter what script, template, or framework you use, they can tell if you've got the old sales breath or commission breath. They can also tell when they're talking to someone who is genuinely curious, genuinely there to help them and serve them, and completely detached from the outcome.

That is the other magnificent point for everybody reading. Anybody in professional services, training, and consulting, the idea is you're not trying to find another sales opportunity. You're having another conversation with the right actor for you, the right person. The ballerina and not the truck driver is another theater analogy.

The idea is you're not trying to find another sales opportunity you're having another conversation with the right actor for you the right person.

I'm having this conversation about helping them. He's a guy from Harvard, Dr. Nick Morgan. His book is called Can You Hear Me? He talked about how we can sense another human's intent with nonverbal cues in milliseconds. How do we go into that conversation? When we got ready for this episode, I heard you on your show, but we met for the first time. We got on this Zoom call. I thought to myself, “This is going to be fun. This is going to be a great conversation. I already like David.” These are things that we can connect.

The truth is that it is better for the process. It's also better for the individual because this is what you want to do with your life and career. It's not about pitching and cajoling. I'm not trying to get one more opportunity in the funnel. I'm trying to help another human being. What ends up happening is great things happen for everybody.

David, we are going to chat again. I have to call out the last thing I loved about that number 58, which is four ways to create follow-up magic. It's not a need or a pain until you hear it from them. You think, “I know the reasons people engage in sales training. I know the reasons people buy enterprise software that does financial reporting.” It doesn't exist until they say the need, the paint, or the opportunity. The return on investment doesn't exist unless it's in their model with their metrics and hitting their goals, whether it's MPV or payback. Those things have to come from them. I love it has to come from that.

Reach David

Tim Hughes is a great guy. He wrote a fantastic book called Social Selling. He used to sell large-scale enterprise software to massive retailers in Europe, including Marks and Spencer, which is one of the largest retailers in the UK. Every business case they write had to come back to how many more pairs of undergarments because that's their number one category killer. Do they sell because of this project? It was always that. Would this result in more undergarments being sold or not? That's the only metric we understand. David, a couple of things here. Thank you for joining the show. We are going to, if you're open to it, have you back for Do It! Marketing when I read that book.

That would be amazing.

We'll get that on the radar. A lot of the folks reading are going to want to reach out and engage with you. Who do we want? Who is that ideal client profile for you? How do they best make contact with you or learn more about you and your fantastic offering?

We work with professional services firm owners. If you're in the business of selling your expertise, which usually takes the form of a training company, a consulting firm, or a coaching company, and all B2B. Mark and I are brothers from another mother. As far as some resources, we have our podcast called The Selling Show, which is at TheSellingShow.com, and some free resources on the main website, which is DoItMarketing.com. There's a blog there and a free 37-page sales and marketing manifesto. That's at DoItMarketing.com/manifesto. Our free on-demand web training is at DoItMarketing.com/webinar.

When you buy the book, Do It! Selling, you go onto an online system that's going to provide all the tools to execute some of the core concepts in the book. You're going to get your payback immediately from the book for downloading these tools. You can apply these concepts to you and your business. David, thanks again for joining the show. What a pleasure meeting you.

Thank you, my friends. Same here. As they say at the end of Casablanca, “The beginning of a beautiful friendship.”

Thank you so much for joining. As you know, we run the show because we want to improve the performance and professionalism of the world's most important business discipline. In doing so, we believe we're improving the lives of professional salespeople everywhere. Thanks a lot for reading. We're growth-oriented. We know we can continue to elevate the way we run this show. Please keep your constructive criticism coming to us at MarkCox@InTheFunnel.com. That's my personal email. We respond to every single person who gives us good ideas and keep them coming because that's how we get great people like David. Thanks again. Continue to sell well. We look forward to seeing you in the next episode.

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David Newman is a Certified Speaking Professional and member of the NSA Million Dollar Speakers Group. David is the author of the business bestsellers, “Do It! Marketing”, “Do It! Speaking and “Do It! Selling”.

David has worked with over 1,800 consultants, coaches, and speakers to help them accelerate their revenue and grow their business by 50%-500% in less than 15 months. Nothing makes David happier than client results.

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David also hosted the national audio magazine of the National Speakers Association, Voices of Experience, and over 300 episodes of The Speaking Show and The Selling Show.

The Curiosity Code: Unlock Your Sales Superpower With Dr. Diane Hamilton

Struggling to capture attention in a world overflowing with information? This episode dives deep into the transformative power of curiosity in sales and beyond. Our guest, Dr. Diane Hamilton, the author of the acclaimed book "Cracking the Curiosity Code," joins us to shed light on why curiosity is a superpower for salespeople and individuals alike. Dr. Hamilton dives deep into her insightful FATE model, which identifies the four key factors that can stifle curiosity: Fear, Assumptions, Technology, and Environment. We'll learn how these elements can hold us back from asking insightful questions, and how to overcome them to unlock our full potential. Dr. Hamilton goes beyond identifying the roadblocks, offering practical strategies to cultivate curiosity. You'll discover how curiosity acts as the spark that ignites innovation, propels motivation, and enhances emotional intelligence – all essential qualities for success in sales and personal growth. So, get ready to ditch the script and embrace the power of curiosity!

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The Curiosity Code: Unlock Your Sales Superpower With Dr. Diane Hamilton

Is curiosity important in professional sales? Is it important in life? Of course, it is. You’ve read a hundred times on this show that curiosity is the key component during discovery, where the client or prospect will feel literally that we care about them achieving a better outcome for their business. It turns out curiosity makes us feel good. It releases the enzyme dopamine, which is the pleasure enzyme. It makes us feel great when we eat a wonderful meal or even enjoy sex. Curiosity is good for us.

Curiosity is a critical success factor in business. In fact, a quote from a book that we’re going to review, “Next to integrity and trust is my curiosity and willingness to encourage my colleagues to challenge the status quo was one of the most critical characteristics that held us to whatever success we were fortunate enough to experience.” That quote came from Keith Krach, who wrote the forward to this book.

Keith is the Founder of DocuSign and Ariba. Ariba ended up with a $40 billion market cap. Whatever success, we were fortunate enough to enjoy. Keith enjoyed a lot of success. Keith was writing about Cracking the Curiosity Code: The Key to Unlo by Dr. Diane Hamilton and Diane’s our guest for this episode. An amazing conversation about curiosity.

We learned that as infants or children, curiosity is everything. We have an abundance of it. That’s how we learn and grow and develop. Over time, things get away and there are barriers preventing our curiosity. It’s so important for personal and professional success. Diane shares with us the four factors that get in the way, fear, assumptions, technology, either overuse of technology or underuse and even the environment, the messages we hear and the stories we’re told.

Diane is an expert on this. In fact, she’s a sought-after expert in curiosity, perception, emotional intelligence, and behavioral science. She’s got four decades of real-world experience and she’s written five books and we’re talking about one of those books. She’s amazingly recognized in this field. She was named to the Global Leader Today’s list of top leaders.

Other people on that list is Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Richard Branson, and Cheryl Sandberg. What company? She was also listed as one of the 200 Biggest Voices in Leadership and in the top 10 Most Powerful Women Leaders in HR. I enjoyed my conversation with Diane. I’m sure you will, too. By the way, Cracking the Curiosity Code should be required when reading in professional sales and maybe in business. If you like this episode as much as I do, please like and subscribe to the Selling Well Show because it matters to us. That’s how we get great guests like Dr. Diane Hamilton and here she is.

Diane, welcome to the show. Thanks so much for joining us.

I’m super excited to be here, Mark. Thanks for having me.

I’m super excited to chat with you. We’re going to be talking about Cracking the C. Diane, the folks who read our episodes knows me go on and add in fun item about the importance of curiosity and authentic curiosity in professional sales. It’s not about us. It’s always about the person we’re speaking to and having that authentic curiosity. You’ve got an amazing background. I wonder if you wouldn’t mind sharing the short story of your journey, your professional journey that led you to writing this book.

Diane’s Professional Journey

I come from a sales background for sure. Decades of sales. I’ve sold everything from computers, software to mortgage loans. You name it. I was in pharmaceutical sales for a long time. There’s so much that you do that is impacted by your sales background, which is wonderful. When I worked in pharmaceuticals, I worked for AstraZeneca. I worked in their AgChem division for almost 4 or 5 years, then they’re another 15 years in their pharmaceutical sales.

I learned a lot from that experience. One of the things I got out of it was they paid for my Master’s, which was wonderful. I never wanted a Master’s. I never thought about it. I never occurred to me to even go back, but I’m thinking, “If they’re going to pay for it, I’ll certainly get one.” I loved education and learning new things. I went back to see how hard it would be to get a PhD. That was my whole goal, just to see how the challenge behind.

I fell in love with online education in the process because I did my entire Bachelor’s at night. You work for 8:00 to 4:00 or 5:00, then you go to a school from 7:00 to 10:00 at night. You want to shoot yourself. I loved online education. I wanted to teach in that realm because I thought I want to help other people not have to do what I do to do. That got me into online education. I’ve been in that coming on many years. I don’t even know. I’ve taught thousands of online courses because I love it so much.

I ended up as the MBA Program Chair at the Forbes School of Business, which is out in the University of Arizona. It was a great experience but when I left, I thought I wanted to try to do some. I still work for them part-time. I teach for a bunch of different universities that have online departments. I’ve taught thousands of courses and I love it.

I wanted to develop my consulting and speaking business. When I went out of my own, I did so many different boards. I work on a lot of different boards from DocuSign. I was on their board advisors and different companies like RadiusAI and technology companies. Many wonderful things. What I do is I learn things and I share what I learn. That’s what I do for a living.

My main thing is, I have my consulting and media business and like you, I had a show like this that’s on hiatus because I’m doing shows for some other people. Mostly, I work with organizations to help them build curiosity. I created the Curiosity Code Index and wrote the book that you held up that goes along with that. It’s the first assessment that determines the factors that inhibit curiosity, which is pretty exciting because you have to know what stops you to get better.

It’s the first assessment that determines the factors that inhibit curiosity, which is pretty exciting because you have to know what stops you to get better.

How interesting in terms of the journey. The journeys on this show are fantastic and I’m sure you experienced the same thing. The list of the guests you had on your show is flabbergasting, as is the list of the testimonials for the book. Everybody’s provided an amazing testimonial, but you mentioned being on the board of DocuSign with Keith Krach who did the forward to the book. He’s such a fan of yours as well.

I’m a friend of his.

The interesting thing about that journey that I liked, Diane, and a little bit of alignment. I as well did an executive MBA. I’d been in my career for a while. I’d had a little bit of some modest success. I thought in my own mind I wanted to become a CEO. I thought I had a bit of a gap in terms of financial acumen. I ended up doing an executive MBA, which is evenings and weekends. You go and spend some time into a wall while working.

Reading your book, the one thing that jumps out at me is it was that experience for me that I’d say, reinvigorated my curiosity. Up to that point in time, up into my low 30s had some success. I thought I was having success because of my inherent capabilities almost Carol Dweck, a fixed mindset, saying, “I’m pretty good at this,” but it’s because of my inherent capabilities.

Cracking The Curiosity Code

I went to the MBA school to try and come back. Maybe become a CEO then I realized all I want to do is sales. It’s the only thing that’s important in a business. It’s the most important thing but it triggered this lifelong learning and this desire to keep growing. The fact, I love doing this show. It’s speaking to people like you to continually learn. Let’s zip around to the book, Cracking the Curiosity Code.

Cracking the Curiosity Code: The Key to Unlocking Human Potential

A couple of things that are interesting. At the beginning of the book, you’re trying to pursue this topic to understand, where do people fit on this spectrum of curiosity? Can being more curious make you a better leader or more successful, or help you address your fears? All these things that we should unpack as part of this discussion, but maybe the starting point is, how do we define curiosity? What is curiosity?

It’s funny, because I gave a big talk for Coaching.com. The very first thing I made everybody do was define a couple of words. What how do you feel? What was the definition for curiosity for you at work, especially? It’s fun to see everybody’s answers. A lot of it is exploring new things, asking questions, and doing things you haven’t done in the past. Those have come up a lot.

When I wrote the book, I always saw myself as a very curious person. I wanted to know why other people weren’t curious. I wanted to just delve into that a little bit more because I had all these people like Steve Orbs and billionaires on my show. Everybody’s super curious, wonderful, and interesting. I would teach some of my classes and some of my students maybe not as interested in looking. You’d want them to give them the fish instead of teach them to fish.

I wanted them to want that. I looked at curiosity like everybody else. It’s the desire to learn new things and all that. As I started to work with organizations and give them my Curiosity Code Index and find out what was slowing them down and talk to them about all these things. I see it so much as getting out of status quo thinking in organizations because blockbusters and the codex and the companies, Blackberry, that was a great movie. I watched how they all failed because they stuck with the status quo way of doing things.

If it worked great in the past, we don’t need to explore and look into new ways because we like those blackberry thumb buttons that we but then Steve Jobs ate their lunch. We have to realize that just because something worked in the past, it’s not going to necessarily work in the future. Having a strong sales background, I saw the importance of asking questions and all those aspects of curiosity. It encompasses all those words that everybody typed into the box.

We have to realize that just because something worked in the past, it’s not going to necessarily work in the future.

What an amazingly consistent theme out there, which is what worked in the past won’t always work in the future. That doesn’t mean we’re not going to take in some of the positives of the past or we’re changing everything. I do believe that in professional sales, particularly over the last 15 or 20 years, there have been significant meaningful changes that we have to respond and react to.

That’s a real challenge in professional sales because you’ve got well established mature folks who have a bit of that Kodak thinking. I was at Kodak at that time. It was interesting time I got hired into Kodak as my first job selling photocopiers back in the early ‘90s. It was quite interesting because they had this photocopy division that had a professional sales school and competed with Xerox. They had some technologies that did compete quite successfully with Xerox.

You could see that mentality if they didn’t want to disrupt their cash cow. It was always this discussion about the film business. As you aptly point out, they had the patent on digital photography and they would literally joke about companies like Sony and Agfa and some of these other competitors because they were so minor league in traditional film compared to Kodak then they ate their lunch.

I know. It’s crazy. I’ve had Jeff Hayzlett on the show. I’ve talked to him. He was the CMO of Kodak. It’s a common thing that a lot of companies have had. They’ve had such great success. You couldn’t walk into a Kodak store without getting a bunch of Kodak film landing on your head because it was so packed everywhere. It’s the thing that it’s hard to foresee the future of what’s going to change. What I found was interesting in sales that has changed so much is the teams are much more popular. When I was at the pharmaceutical rep, I started to see a little bit of that when I was leaving. This is more than twenty years ago than when I was doing that.

I loved having my own territory. I had nobody to bother me. I could do my own thing, then they go, “If one person calling on this doctor is getting such great results, let’s have two do it.” They would have me do it instead of every four weeks calling on somebody. My counterpart would go every two weeks and we would split it up. “That works so well. Let’s have four people.” By the time I left, there was eight of us calling on this guy or gal. It was a lot.

They got overwhelmed by it. It was interesting to see. My daughter is a big director of marketing sales for a company called Split and she’s been in sales forever. I get to see what they do and some of these teams. When I was selling loans, they threw you the phone books, “Here, dial for dollars.” Now, they’ve got this person gets the lead, that person closes the deal, and this person does this. That’s what I think is the biggest change in sales since I did it.

You’re right, that’s a huge change in sales. That came about with Salesforce. There was a guy named Aaron Ross, who helped grow Salesforce in the early days. He came to the conclusion that established sales reps wouldn’t do what’s called demand generation or what they used to call cold calling many years ago.

He came up with something, the specialist model where we have people who do demand generation. They passed the opportunity over to the more mature account executive because that person’s never going to do demand generation. I don’t agree with that, but they’re never going to do demand generation. A very famous book called Predictable Reve.

That triggered this specialist model. Part of this is damaged the sales community. That’s a different episode for a different time but that idea is interesting. That idea of this isolation as a salesperson as well. Curiosity comes into play there a little bit too and to a certain extent. extent. One of the things that we’re always surprised by in our training is that people get benefit from being a part of the community, even people who sell for companies in different divisions, different industries, and selling different products. There’s an amazing amount of consistency in terms of challenges or opportunities or the importance of the mindset.

They get real value understanding what different people do. You talked about, “I enjoyed being alone and being on my own,” then suddenly there’s eight people calling on that poor physician. Diane, in the book, you make these great connections. The book is such a great read. It’s so incredibly interesting because you make these great connections between curiosity and motivation, curiosity and leadership, engagement and emotional intelligence. All these things we want it success and we want to know about.

One of the most fascinating points you bring up that’s validated by the research is that and correct me if I’ve got this wrong, that children or babies are all about curiosity. By the time they’re three, they’re asking about 100 questions a day. Survival is based on curiosity and they’ve got this going for them. By the time they’re 12 or 13, that’s cut by 75% and they’re asking very few questions. It’s almost like the environments are bleeding the curiosity out of these kids as they grow up.

Emotional Intelligence

You bring up something that comes up in the Curiosity Code Index. The environment was one of the factors that inhibits curiosity. What was interesting to me was you mentioned emotional intelligence and some of these other things that we’re trying to develop at work. I wrote my doctoral dissertation on the impact of emotional intelligence on sales performance. That’s what got me into the interest of emotional intelligence, which I fell into randomly. I hadn’t even heard of emotional intelligence at that time. It was a long time ago.

I thought, “This is a cool and interesting topic.” I had no idea how big this thing flowed. As I was writing this, I’m thinking, “I like all this assessment stuff,” because I thought it was fascinating. I got certified in emotional intelligence tests and Myers-Briggs. Whatever was popular at the time. What I learned was emotional intelligence and motivation and all those things you mentioned are all the things people hire me to speak.

They’d say, “Can you speak about soft skills or whatever they call the different things?” As I started to look at some of these things, I realized that to fix any of those things, you’d have to fix curiosity first. Curiosity is the spark. I liken it to baking a cake. You want cake as your outcome. If you’re baking a cake, that’s your goal. You’ve got ingredients like flour, oil and eggs. You’re mixing them together and you put it in a pan. You put it in the oven and you want cake.

In the business environment, our cake is money and productivity. We want that. These are the ingredients, emotional intelligence, motivation, communication, engagement, and innovation. Everybody’s working on these things but nobody’s realized that they’ve put it in the oven. The oven’s not on. You got to have it on the oven with a spark of curiosity to get cake. That’s how it all ties together. That’s why I broke those things out into different chapters for that reason.

FATE

Let’s talk about the spark. We’ve got folks out there reading that might say and almost like Carol Dweck with growth mindset, “In one area of my life, I’ve got a real growth mindset. I’m a musician. I love learning, and watching online videos for drumming. I love getting better. I love improving. When I’m not playing well, I don’t see it as a scarlet letter. I go, this is part of my journey to getting better. I’m going to get better. Yet in business, I might have this fixed mindset and I’m not open to coaching. I don’t want to learn and develop.”

In Carol’s book at one point in time, she says, “One of the main ways of changing or triggering that growth mindset is understanding the difference between a fixed and growth mindset then looking at some part of your life where you have that growth mindset.” If people are reading and they say, “Maybe I have plateaued a little bit or regarding my curiosity, maybe it has diminished.” How do we re-trigger curiosity?

I use Carol Dweck’s work, George Lanky and Sir Ken Robinson. The last two have some great TED talks if you haven’t seen them. If you look at some of this stuff, in George Lanz’ work with NASA, he looked at creativity, which mimics exactly what we see with curiosity. It goes up about age five then tanks. In our 30s, we have very little left.

What he said is, “We come up with these great ideas, but at the same time, we over-criticize them.” It’s like putting on the gas and the brakes at the same time. You don’t go very far. How do we know if I’m a musician and I love that but I told myself in my head what you were saying, “In business setting, I’m not this.” That’s our assumptions that we have. That’s our voice in our head.

When I studied for the Curiosity Code Index, that’s my main thing that I work with organizations with. I give this assessment. The reason this assessment got so much attention is because there was nothing that determined these things that hold us back. We already talked a little bit about environment, but there’s four factors that you can figure out what’s holding you back from curiosity.

If you know these things, that’s how, as you said, awareness for from Carol Dweck. If you recognize these things, then you can move forward. I spent years studying thousands of people and this is all peer reviewed scholarly research that I had published because I wanted to not come up with an assessment that’s cute for my website. I wanted something that’s going to fix this. The four factors that inhibit curiosity are the acronym is FATE.

You have to recognize how fear, the F. A is the assumptions, which is that voice in your head. T is technology, which is over and under-utilization of it and environment is E, which is everybody with whom you’ve had contact who’s told you, “You shouldn’t like this or family all does that or I don’t have time to answer this.” All these can overlap a little bit. You talk about environment.

If maybe somebody has said or maybe your sibling said, “That’s a stupid thing to do.” You get all these people in your life. Your boss, “Don’t come to me with problems unless you have solutions,” or somebody said, “That’s a great question. I’ll make you the head of that committee and I’m not going to pay you to do it but here’s more work.” All these things have this voice in our head going, “I don’t like that or I’m not going to do that again.” That leads to fear.

We’re in the meetings and going, “I’m not going to suggest anything. The last time, they made me the head of that, or I don’t want to look stupid.” There’s all these things. It was so interesting to me to get it in writing like, “This is what holds you back under fear. Here’s what holds you back under assumptions, technology, and environment.” As you said, you know where you stand but as in an emotional intelligence test or an engagement test. You then can create a personal swat, look at your weaknesses and threats, then create smart goals to overcome them. That’s basically the process I go through within organizations with people.

That’s the process you go through. By the way, if we go online and we do the Curiosity Code Index, is there a tool online that we can self-assess and do these things?

Yes, it’s CuriosityCode.com.

Those links will be in the episode. Everybody should take a look and take that on. The acronym was FATE, fear, assumptions, technology, and environment. You start to think and all of these are cognitive biases. Many of these, anyway, at least environment cognitive biases. A lot of them apply, by the way, to sales. I think that environment and these voices you hear in your head, certainly when I started I’m not sure about you. I wasn’t very proud to be in a professional sales role when I started.

All my friends, looking back, had the worst jobs in the universe. They were MBAs who were the lowest level in terms of the financial community and investment banking, where they get abused for years. We had lawyers who were articling and miserable existence. I’m selling photocopiers into businesses all the time, dealing with people and learning about business, but it had a real self-esteem issue likely because of this perception in the universe of what sales is. The stereotype from many years ago like Gil from the Simpsons. It wasn’t very good. By the way, there’s still a little bit of that out there.

A long time ago. It was Willie Lohman and death of a salesman.

There you go.

I watch Glenn Gary and Glenn Ross. You watch these things and you go, “It sounds awful.” I believe that every should have a sales background to some extent. It’s the most helpful thing. I had Barry Ryan on my show. He teaches curiosity and sales at Stanford. Some of this stuff is fascinating to see how much sales helps you.

For me, the biggest thing that helped me in sales was questioning to develop my empathy, which is a big part of emotional intelligence. What was interesting, when I worked for AstraZeneca. They rated us on our concern for impact. This was like 1980 when I took the first assessment with them. They were way ahead of their time. How I came across to other people was huge for them.

I thought, “That’s such an important part.” Emotional intelligence is your ability to understand yourself and others and those emotions and react appropriately. In sales, if you don’t know how you’re coming across to other people, that’s a problem. It’s also in sales, you need to develop this empathy to be able to know what your customers even need. It’s so complicated. Even though sales has got that Willy Loman thing to some people.

In sales, you need to develop empathy to be able to know what your customers need.

To me, you’re bringing in all the money for the company. You’re the heart of everything. People are starting to see that this is so important that we need to have people trained and have them understand. I have a sales story. I share this more than one as a pharmaceutical rep. I’m young doing this. I was just out of college. I had never sold anything.

I went through their intense training program. I’ve never had better training in anything in my life. They’re like, “You’re going to say this. You’re going to do that. It’s going to be this order. You’re going to talk about this product.” I went through all that training. It was years of training in some respects, but my first call or so, I’m in a building. It’s like a three-story building. I get up there and I’m in the waiting room. You’ve got to wait for these, it was a guy at that time that I had to call on.

You had to wait for him a long time and you’re all nervous going, “I’m going to say this. I got to talk about this product and that product.” I got in front of him finally and they told me, “You don’t know how much they say. This guy’s got five seconds. He’s not going to want to talk to you. You’re going to have to do what your best. Chase him down the hallway. Whatever you have to do.” For some reason, I was able to sit in an office with him, which was unusual. I got through three of the products. All three, that was the goal. No one gets through three. I got through this one and that one. I walked out of that office. I was so proud of myself like I had just done the most amazing presentation.

You just pitched.

It was wonderful. I closed him. I did everything you’re supposed to do, but I had to go get my samples. I go down and get in the elevator to go down to my car. As the door’s closing, a guy gets on the elevator with me. I’m such an extrovert, I can’t go three floors without talking. I look at him and I go, “Sir, do you work in the building?” He looks at me, so mortified. He goes, “You just sold me your products.” That’s the same guy.

You never looked up.

I look at him.

Fantastic.

The worst thing. I died. Wouldn’t you? It was the worst sales call you could ever have. I didn’t ask him any questions. I often think about if you hadn’t gotten the elevator, you don’t know how bad you are sometimes.

First of all, what a tough lesson to learn and how spectacular to learn it on your first call for the rest of your existence.

It helped me.

Change In Professional Sales

By the way, Daine, what you described is the biggest change in professional sales in the last 30 years. There was a time where that person on the other side of the table needed you to explain what products were out there. The difference now is everybody knows everything. They don’t need you to explain what products and services. This is a problem. Most people still want to pitch but the reality of it is, this is where curiosity comes in. What they want to know is, how can you help me run a better business?

Whatever it is you do, can you help us run a better business somehow or help me achieve the goals and objectives of my division? If I’m a doctor, help me run a better practice. That’s where the shift where you interviewed at the end of our show. Sales is management and consulting now. He said, “Used to be pitching and all that but all that’s going to get taken care of online by AI.” By the way, thanks for sharing that story. We’ve all got them.

You get a real groan from the audience when you share that one in a sales group because it’s just awful.

We’ve all got them and you’ve got those things where you were so nervous. You did what you’d been taught, “Better know my product. Better pitch. Get better. Keep going.” This is why it’s lifelong learning doing this. This is a hard thing to do.

It’s a funny aspect to look at how things have changed, as you said that because a lot of people don’t ask the questions that they need to ask. Back then, you would ask different questions. Again, we’re getting on a status quo. You have to know the kinds of things to find out how to help them with their practice. I can remember a doctor I called on.

I got better and started asking him questions. I start painting the picture they used to teach us to paint the picture. I’d say, “If you use my migraine drug when your patients come in and they have this horrible headache. They call you in the middle of the night and wake you up because you have to send them to the ER. It’s all this money it’s going to cost them. They’re going to have all this.” I painted this big picture. The guy says to me, “I don’t care. That comes out of somebody else’s budget.” I’m like, “First of all, it might be not to go to you.”

You don’t care about your patients.

Sometimes painting the picture helps bring out the questions. That’s another way to explore what their pain points are.

Sometimes, painting the picture helps bring out the questions. That’s another way to explore what their pain points are.

I had this experience where we have a networking touch point with somebody. They’re extraordinarily successful individual. We had a great conversation, but somebody thought we should chat. At the end, they went, “I’m thinking about this. Why don’t you let us know what you do there?” I thought to myself, “I’m not going to give too much data here. I don’t know anything about your company. I’m not going to go too deep.” I sent this note over and I literally got this email with probably 35 points attacking what I’d sent over. I sent a quick email back going, “Fantastic thoughts. Let’s chat live about it.” As soon as you start pitching anything. It’s very easy for somebody to come back and go, “I don’t like this.”

You don’t know what they even want.

We have no idea what they want. My email back was going to go, “I agree with all your points. What problem you think you’re trying to solve?” You asked for this but if you don’t know what problem we’re trying to solve, then I can’t help. Your book would be so important for everybody reading. There’s a difference between a line of questioning that is meant to trigger an answer that leads to the problem I solve and me pitching again.

By the way, through Dr. Morgan’s work, the book’s called Can You Hear Me? People are always sensing the intent of someone else. Consciously and subconsciously, we can tell their intent. The second these they start to think that we’ve got commission breath, a wall goes up. You’ve come across those people that have that authentic interest in you and your business or what’s going on. That’s the skill to try and cultivate, which is have a unique interest. Try and understand what’s going on.

Do your research to earn the right to understand. understand. The outcome down the road might be an opportunity for you. If you’re constantly focusing on trying to figure out how to add value to somebody else or some other business or a buyer, things will work out for you down the road. Even if it’s not an immediate sale for you. That’s one of these key lessons that is also new in sales. I don’t think people get that.

We learned a lot from the focus on culture and perception and some of the things I wrote about after my Curiosity book. I wrote a book on perception because I thought it was so important what you’re talking about to recognize this. The power perception and the perception power index is all based on recognizing that perception is a combination of IQ, EQ, emotional quotient, CQ for curiosity quotient and for cultural quotient.

As you look at all these aspects, sometimes you can put yourself in somebody else’s shoes a lot more easily when you recognize perception is a process. My acronym for that is EPIC. It’s evaluate, predict, interpret, and correlate to come up with conclusions. There’s so much of our backgrounds and culture. It doesn’t matter if it’s religious or female or male. All these different factors of how we were raised can impact so much of what we think the other person’s thinking.

Again, it comes back to the assumptions and the curiosity thing. We assume that this is their problem. We assume all these things without asking. It all comes back to asking questions and building that empathy and our perspective. We all sit on this world in a different spot. I see you’re selling the Selling Well show from this angle but somebody sitting here might see it from here. When we think about that, it’s so easy for us to assume everybody else is thinking the same thing we’re thinking and they could be on completely different plane.

It’s such a great point. By the way, because of the forgetting curve with Herman Ebbinghaus, we constantly have to reinforce this or reengage this or recommunicate it, frankly. Whatever conversation we’re having because we’re also busy. What might resonate and stick to one person at one point in time. Particularly, he says, “You come and see them three weeks later.” You think they understand your value proposition to the market in your company and your product. They don’t even remember your name.

Curiosity And Leadership

You think, “We’ve already been through this.” I’m going to tell a very short story because it leads to curiosity and leadership. On chapter four in the book, curiosity and leadership but everybody in this podcast has heard very quickly. I was the worst sales manager ever in the year 2000. Pretty sure in the history of time, there was nobody worse because I’d been this very strong superstar salesperson, who gets promoted into being a sales manager.

I thought it would be Shangri-La. Now I’m responsible for eight people. All I want to do is tell them exactly what to do all the time. I want them to do it as I used to do it. They can’t do that, so I’m miserable. They don’t want to do that, so they’re miserable. In big companies, when you perform badly, you keep getting promoted. Within about a year, I got promoted to run a division that I knew about whatsoever.

I’m managing a team and every time I’m working with them, they say, “Here’s my situation, what should I do?” All I can do is go, “I don’t know. What do you think you should do?” Suddenly, management became easy. They were happy and engaged. They felt empowered and I started to slowly learn the business. Tell me a little bit about the chapter curiosity and leadership, some of the connections of these great leaders. What did you found there?

Leadership was such an interesting thing. When I had Francesca Gino on my show, who’s a big Harvard professor, who did the case study for curiosity in HBR article, which I love. Everybody should read that. We talked about how leaders think that they encourage curiosity if you research them, a lot of them. when you interview the people who work for them, they think, “Not so much.”

There’s a disconnect in leadership. What leaders want to know about curiosity when I work with them is how does it impact the bottom line? They want to know a lot of that data when I’m talking from their perspective. What is interesting now that ChatGPT is such a hot topic. If you type into chat and ask you know how does this help leaders? How does this promote the bottom line to have curiosity? It almost tells you like, “It’s intuitive, dummy.” When it comes back what it says to you it’s funny.

It helps with communication and emotional intelligence and emotional stuff. There’s not a lot of data out there, which I love that Francesca had some for leaders that we’re seeing some of this. I work with big companies like Novartis, Verizon, and LinkedIn. I speak and go around the world and talk to these companies and give this assessment. I get to talk to a lot of leaders and they all have a different way of promoting curiosity within the workplace.

At Verizon, they sent me back and I created these videos. These small little teaser videos that they play in their onboarding sessions. They can share the value of curiosity in a couple of minutes from me talking. They’d have an employee who was super successful and they give their story of how they became successful based on their curiosity. They create these little videos. They play them all throughout all the stores and all their onboarding sessions.

They’re sharing the culture of curiosity. That’s Verizon’s way of doing it. Novartis pays 100 hours of education a year to their employees. They all have different things that they do. It’s emulating what you want to see if you’re a leader. You have to ask the stupid questions. You mentioned Keith Krach and I’m on a lot of boards with him. I’m at the Krach Institute at Purdue. It’s a technology awareness company that he’s created and Global Mentor Network. He grade him on that one.

What I loved about Keith is his leadership style. That’s why I asked him to write the forward of the book. Whether he was the CEO at DocuSign or undersecretary in Washington, he’s stayed very humble. He doesn’t say he knows everything. He gets these giant boards. When I was at the board at DocuSign, there was like 250 of us. I’m with sharks and McDonald’s. I’m like, “What am I doing here?” In a way.

He gets media people, scientists, and technology. He gets all these people together and he doesn’t say he knows everything that everybody knows. He knows a lot more than he pretends because this guy’s the smartest guy I’ve ever met. He’ll be very humble about it and say, “I hire these people around me that know all this, who all are all knowledgeable in these areas.” Leaders need to recognize you can’t know everything and you don’t know what you don’t know and that comes up a lot. If you surround yourself with great mentorship, you can build your curiosity and utilize everybody else’s curiosity, your advantage.

What resonated with me about the chapter, Diane, was all of the amazing leaders Keith and others that you’ve interviewed. When they talk about some of the most important traits on leaders, curiosity ends up being one of the biggest ones. They’re not in meetings telling everybody what to do. As you know and I know now, but it’s a hard learning curve. Nobody capable wants to be told what to do. Generally, capable people want autonomy to grow themselves, to achieve, be creative, and have flexibility.

No one wants to be told what to do even in your earliest days selling for AstraZeneca. You wanted to be left alone. That’s how you phrased it. One of the important things, the best leaders are, they ask the right questions to challenge the team and elevate the team. They do have that core capability, experience and intelligence to assess to a certain degree what’s coming back because at some point in time, we want to be curious. We want to get facts, but eventually we have to make a decision and you raise that in the book as well. We can’t get paralyzed by curiosity where it’s analysis paralysis.

When I was speaking to that group, you reminded me. I had shared a story of Doug Connect and how he turned around Campbell Soup by asking. I teach so many courses where they have that case study in there. It’s because he took engagement and drastically improved it. Everybody was walking dead going to work. What he did was ask people about themselves and learn about them. He wrote them handwritten notes. He wrote 30,000 of them in his time there.

You should see his face when he talks about it. It was more than he expected but it completely turned around the culture. You can’t assume you know the answers to what motivates people. I’ve had more people offer me tickets to basketball games or dinners at night as a reward for my sales output. I want to go bed at 8:00. That’s not rewarding to me. When you’re talking to motivate people, you got to find out what they care about.

By the way, we’re cut from the same cloth. The early the bed, early raises the thing. It’s interesting you talk about something like that note what motivates people, even that note. We’ve done maybe 100 of these episode and wonderful people. Every conversation is great like this one. I had Stephen Covey booked for six weeks out or eight weeks out or something. First of all, I get his book in the mail. He sends me his book in advance. There’s a nice little inscription on the front and I thought, “That’s nice.”

Amazon doesn’t have to come to the house this week. The next thing, a week later, a letter comes in the mail. He said, “I’ve been watching what you’ve been doing. You’re knocking the ball out of the park. I can’t wait to have a great conversation.” I still have that. I kept that letter somewhere but it’s just this meaningful impact. It’s funny in this world, you bring it up quite a bit that gratitude matters so much to Millennials and so on and so forth. I’m not getting rid of that letter in the short term. That was such a nice thing. You can be darn sure I was as prepared as you can ever be for that episode.

I understand what you’re saying. I’ve had like Tom Hopkins and different people. When I was a kid here in Arizona, Tom Hopkins was like. I wasn’t even a kid. I was in college and whatever but he was so big. It’s so fun to see the Zig Ziglar type people and what their little things that they do. We can learn from so many of these sales gurus out there.

I attend a lot. I think a lot of salespeople don’t attend enough training. I’ve gone to Tony Robin’s things or whatever things. You go to a different things and you get bits and pieces because you can find, “This piece works for me. Maybe that works for this person.” That’s one thing I liked at pharmaceutical sales. Before they hired you, they made you ride in the car with 3 or 4 different salespeople. You spent three different days to decide if this is the job for you.

I remember the first person. She was like, “This is the worst job watching her.” I thought, “I’m never taking this job.” The second person, I’m like, “This is the best job ever,” because I hated the way she did things. It was like, “This is not how I could do this.” She was inefficient. It was awful watching her but I could take a couple things that she did. I could take a couple things that this guy did. You take them and you go, “This makes it right for me so that I’m most effective.”

All those folks you talked about, by the way, I love the testimonial from Tom Hopkins. Tom Hopkin is a total legend in professional sales with those same people from 30 to 40 years ago, but amazing things. One consistent theme from all of them become a lifelong learner. No one’s a know-it-all. You’ve got to be a learn-it-all. This is why the book is so important. Everybody’s heard me chat about books, but when we’re on the show and the joy the show is I have to read these books to prepare for the episode.

Sometimes I’m delighted. I got to call it out with Cracking the Curiosity Code. This is a fantastic book, folks. We didn’t have time to get into everything but Diane makes this very detailed fact-based and research-based connections between curiosity, motivation, leadership, engagement, intelligence, creativity, innovation, age, or maintaining health. What’s that connection? What holds you back from being curious? We start as infants where we’re nothing but curious.

Suddenly over time, it diminishes, how do we retrigger it, curiosity, and technology. In chapter seventeen, that’s where we talk about the Curiosity Code Index. An interesting thing to go through. We’ll have the links in this episode so you can go find it. This is a great book, folks. Diane, thank you the show. What a pleasure speaking with you.

Thank you, Mark. This has been so much fun. I love talking to salespeople. This is so important for everybody. I thoroughly enjoyed the experience here.

Thank you so much. How do people learn more about you? What’s the easiest way to connect with you?

The easiest way you can find me on social media is at Dr. Diane Hamilton. My website is DrDianeHamilton.com. For curiosity, you can go to CuriositCode.com, which is part of my main website. If you go to DrDianeHamilton.com, you can get there that way as well. The most important thing on the site is to start with the Curiosity Code Index because it goes along with the book. That’s the most important aspect of how you can develop your curiosity is the Curiosity Code Index. I hope they check that out.

Thank you, Diane.

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As always, the intention of the show is to increase the performance in the professionalism of B2B sales and improve the lives of professional salespeople in doing so. I know the conversation with Diane would have helped you in that regard. I also know I can get better at running this show and you’re the folks who can tell me how to do it.

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About Diane Hamilton

Dr. Diane Hamilton is the Founder and CEO of Tonerra, which is a consulting and media-based business. She is a nationally syndicated radio host, keynote speaker, and the former MBA Program Chair at the Forbes School of Business. She has authored multiple books including Cracking the Curiosity Code: The Key to Unlocking Human Potential, and The Power of Perception: Eliminating Boundaries to Create Successful Global Leaders. She is the creator of the Curiosity Code Index® assessment, which is the first and only assessment that determines the factors that inhibit curiosity and the Perception Power Index, which determines the factors that impact the perception process.

Her groundbreaking work helps organizations improve innovation, engagement, and productivity. Thinkers50 Radar, considered the Academy Awards for Leadership, chose her as one of the top minds in management and leadership. She was named to Global Leaders Today's list of top leaders along with Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Richard Branson, and Sheryl Sandberg, LeadersHum included her on their list of 200 Biggest Voices in Leadership and in the Top 10 Most Powerful Women Leaders in HR.